Month: October 2017

The following anecdote is about the bond I share with my sisters, and how things have stayed the same between us even though one of my sister is off and married.

I have 2 sisters, both whom older than me, my oldest sister got married in April 2016. Although we do have an age gap we still have a close bond that we cherish, and have kept close to our hearts.

As years of my childhood have passed my sisters and I have always been told that one day you are going to get married, and will start a new chapter in your life with your soul mate, go to a place which you will be able to call YOUR home, things will change, people will change, priorities will change.

Years passed on, but I’d never realize that within an instant that day would come into my oldest sister’s life so quick, her marriage day.

My sisters and I have a very close relationship, we’ve never hesitated to share important factors of our lives with each other, we’ve always considered each other best friends.

We fight, we disagree, we get mad at one another, we talk smack, but we know that when no one else will be there for us, we will be there for one another.

As the day of my oldest sister marriage approached closer and closer I felt scared, uneasy. I was of course so happy for her she was marrying someone she loves so dearly, and I knew she was going to be in good hands. But I was scared about that the bond we share with each other, we might lose that, scared that I was going to lose a best friend, scared of how much I was going to miss seeing my sister everyday.

Post my sister marriage, it was a difficult time, as in trying to get adjusted without her being here, because one thing was for sure we depended on my oldest sister for many things, the list is endless.

As months passed on we got used to the idea that she did not live with us no more. But also as the months passed on post my sister’s marriage I started to realize that nothing has changed she still our same sister that she was before, we still share everything, we still fight, get mad… everything is still the same. That it is nothing like what we’ve been told as growing up as kids.

Yes she is married, but she still considers us all the same, like we consider her the same.

Overall, a sister’s bond is so strong that no matter what society norms tell you, that bond you’ve created with each other will always remain the same regardless the situation. A middle eastern society does follow the idea that after a girl is married, that is her family and her home, but I disagree with that society norm, I believe that once a girl is married has two families, two homes. She should be able to keep who she desires close to her heart.

A sister bond is never breakable.

Dear Future Maha,

Life’s been a crazy ride with many ups and downs, and everything has led up to this day. You’re on a bed now at the age of 82 coughing, with your oxygen tank by your side with the nasal cannula wired up your nose. All the decisions you made, all the actions you’ve taken has led you up to this very moment. You’re on  a edge now, your death has almost arrived you may die a few years from now, a year from now, a few months from now, a few days from now, or a few moments from now. So, I am writing to you to recollect some of the most important stages in your life in this little time you have.

Remember, the day when you first started kindergarten with the bowl cut. Remember when that one girl with the blonde hair that approached you to call you over for “snack time”, and that started a friendship that you will always remember and cherish close to your heart as that was you first friend. Remember, the first day at your new school Almadina when you had no idea where to go, but it all didn’t matter much as it was a short chapter of your life. Remember, your first day at FFCA that you joined in 7^th grade, years passed and you hit high school which was a blink of an eye, little did you know you walked the stage in grade 12, and became the graduating class of 2018.

Remember, your first day of University when you got lost and bumped into a girl, little did you know that one interaction would be the start of a friendship that lasts for a lifetime. Remember your first university class when the boy in the red t-shirt sat by you, and started to talk some real nonsense to you, little did you know that that would end up being your life partner. Remember the day you graduated from university after pursuing your dream of earning the social work degree, and as you walked across stage the only thing you could hear was the voice of your family, and friends cheering on for you, whom supported you through every decision.

Remember, the day when you came back to the same class you met whom you love the most, with him after a year from graduating, little did you know he was going to go down on one knee for you in the same place you two started your journey together. Remember, your wedding day when he first saw and kissed you on the cheeks, and whispered to you, that you’re the most beautiful person he has ever laid his eyes on, little did you know that would be the start of a life-long beautiful marriage. Remember, when you had your first child, and saw the miracle of life, little did you know that would only be the start of blossoming a family, soon you ended it up having your second child followed by your third.

Remember, the days when you lost some of the most important people in your life who made you who you are as a person, little did you know you will soon be at the place they are at.

Everything makes sense, all the pieces fit in. The reasons you made the decisions you made, the success, the failures all of it makes sense. It was all to lead up to this moment.

No regrets…

Sincerely

Maha from the past,